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Note: CW for identity struggles, specifically relating to bisexuality and polyamory. I will be using the terms bisexual/bisexuality as those are the terms I use to self-identify, and I am on the side of discourse that does not see bisexuality as an exclusionary term. Because I am attracted to all genders and not an outdated binary, you may find it easier to see this as being about pansexuality.


It’s now been over a year since I last had a post relating to sexuality on here, the last one being this blog post I wrote about the Pulse tragedy and what that meant to me as a bisexual. But seeing as it’s PRIDE MONTH once again, I felt it necessary to take the time out to write once again about the pride and privilege I have in my own identity.

The thing about sexuality is, that it’s fluid. People can identify one way at one point in their lives, and as something completely different at another. And I feel like this is often an under-represented aspect of the LGBTQ+ spectrum; that it is just that: a spectrum.

Gender and sexuality are not binary. They never have been. They have just been perceived as such in history’s eyes. It is not as simple as gay/straight, male/female… and despite all the shit that’s going on in the world, and the oppression that those who do not fit into this binary mould still face, I’m pretty proud to be part of a world that is starting to realise this, and part of a community whose voices interweave as one to shout for representation and the pride we have in our identities.

As I discussed before, it took me a long time to even realise I was bisexual, and even once I had, there was a feeling of “too little, too late” because I was already in a long-term relationship, and thus there seemed like no point in “coming out” or anything.
This can be a very jarring feeling.
My bisexuality is very inherently a part of my personality, and shapes who I am as a human being. I think that that can be a difficult concept for straight people to understand, and it’s something I was struggling with at the time of that last blog post, which I think is evident. I am simultaneously part of a community, and yet excluded from it at the same time. I have even seen posts this year saying that bisexuals in “straight relationships” shouldn’t even be allowed to attend Pride events.

I’m not going to go into a breakdown of a disagreement with that statement. It’s clear I disagree with it, however I do also understand the thoughts that go behind that from the people who would say such. As I have addressed, there is privilege that comes with my identity, and I guess that means that many LGBTQ+ people do not see a cis girl in a “straight” relationship as contributing to the community in any way.

I have thought about bisexual erasure and invisibility* a lot.

As with last year, it hurts, it really hurts, if I feel anyone is in any way trying to strip me of my identity. And I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out why this is. Although I can acknowledge and understand a criticism that comes from other LGBTQ+ people as to why my identity is objectively less important as a cis girl in a relationship with a cis guy, it still feels important to me, and I still feel passionately, intensely, emotionally invested in matters that affect the LGBTQ+ community. Whenever I am made to feel like I’m not allowed to care about these issues, it feels like someone is ripping out a part of me.

Bi erasure/invisibility isn’t always about the under or lack of representation of bisexual (or pansexual) identities. Sometimes it takes the form of erasing someone’s identity completely from themselves. Being married made me feel very excluded from the LGBTQ+ community because lots of people made me feel like I had “made a choice”, and this did not sit well with me.
If you’re bisexual and enter into a relationship, you have not made a choice about your sexual identity. You’re not straight if you’re a bisexual who enters into an opposite-sex relationship, and you’re not gay if you’re a bisexual who enters into a same-sex relationship. Bisexuals are not confused. In either of those relationship forms, we still exist as bisexual individuals.

It wasn’t until this past year why I realised why this sat so uncomfortably with me.

There are plenty of people in relationships, plenty of people in marriages, who are attracted to others, and who do not have a problem with their partner being attracted to others. There are also a lot of people who do. And there are even people who claim not to have any attraction to others when in monogamous relationships.
My husband and I have always been in a relationship of complete and utter honesty. There is nothing I don’t share with him. And I truly mean nothing. I’m not presenting this as in ‘ideal’ model in any way by the way; relationships exist in a dizzying variety of models and this is just ours. But what this means for our relationship is a complete honesty when it comes to this particular subject.
I am completely and utterly in love with my husband, and I also always have and always will be attracted to others simultaneously, regardless of gender. I don’t like to label my relationship by things I am allowed to do, because our relationship is a partnership and not to do with ownership, but the easiest way to describe this is to say it is permissible by my partner for me to be actively attracted to others, and vice versa.

Because I am always actively engaged in attraction to others, I feel like my sexuality is not passive. I’m not a bisexual woman in a relationship with a man and not attracted to anyone else. I’m a bisexual woman in a relationship with a man who is actively attracted to other people, including those of other genders.
Obviously I am in no way saying that if you are in a relationship that sounds more like the former that you are not bisexual, or that your identity is not important. But I do feel that it has an impact on how you are going to react to certain things.
The reason why I bring this up is because I thought this was the way it was for everyone: that active attraction to others was normal, and permissible.

And then something else happened which threw my own identity into a completely different light: I fell in love with someone other than my husband, and entered into a polyamorous relationship.

…. that might be a lot to process; I’ll give you a minute.

 

 

You good? Good.

 

Writing in full details about my other relationship isn’t something I’m ready to do completely at this time. That isn’t because I’m not proud of it, and it’s certainly not something I am ashamed of in the slightest, I just don’t think it’s time.

But what has happened in the past 7 months that I have known this person, is that I have had to acknowledge and accept another part of my identity… and in several ways that has been completely affirming, and completely terrifying.

I am so incredibly lucky that all parties involved in my relationships have made this year so beautifully easy. Granted, it is a long-distance relationship, which in a sense makes things easier to adjust to, but coming to terms with polyamory as an identity, especially when you have never been in a polyamorous relationship before, is understandably a confusing time.
It’s a time where you question yourself, your relationship with your existing partner, your relationship with your new partner, and even your relationship with your friends and family. Polyamory is far from “the norm”, and you dissect every relationship you have with someone to work out whether it’s “okay” to tell them.
Once again, this doesn’t come from a place of shame in your relationship, but rather an acknowledgement that you are “deviating” from many peoples’ moral compasses. It’s nobody else’s business to judge another person’s relationship/s, but first and foremost one must think of their own safety: mentally or otherwise.

Something that many bisexuals have to deal with is questioning their own identity based on the prejudices others have of them. As I already spoke of, the common misconception is that bisexuals are confused, and this is not helped when people want to break down your relationship history.
If you’ve only ever been with someone of the same sex, then surely you must be gay. If you’ve only ever been with someone of the opposite sex, then surely you must be straight.
It doesn’t work like that. You are bisexual if you are bisexual, regardless of the genders of the notches on your bedpost or any short-term or long-term partners you’ve had.

It can feel very affirming, as a bisexual, to find someone of another gender to one that you are used to dating.

That might seem like an unusual thing to say, and in a sense it is rather sad, because you don’t need to be “actively fulfilling” your preferences by actively entering into a relationship with someone.
But the sad truth is that the criticism can bog you down. You can start to feel like you are not who you thought you were, not part of the community you thought you were. Because surely if you really were what you thought you were then you’d actively be doing something that somehow proved it? And surely if you’ve never done that and then marry someone you’ve picked a side and your identity is then inconsequential for the rest of your life?
It’s sad, it sucks, it hurts.

And if you’re in that position, I want you to know that your identity does matter and is valid.

But without lying to you all, when I met my other partner, it was affirming.
I got to a point where in my head I thought maybe, just maybe I was wrong. Maybe all these feelings I’d had for as long as I could remember were aesthetic-based, maybe I just appreciated all genders visually, but not romantically or sexually.
To then meet someone who was not male, who I fell for, who I was attracted to emotionally and physically, was like a revelation. Even though I’ve known it half my life already, it truly was an “aha! I was right!” moment.

The past seven months have been an eye-opening time in my life.

I have learned what it means to be me again, and to have all the things I hated about myself for so long validated.
I wasn’t making it up or imagining it: I like other genders, I am capable of loving more than one person at a time, non-monogamy is okay. And it really is okay. It’s more than okay: it’s fantastic.

But more than anything else, I now feel so truly confident in my identity again.

Hi 🙂 I’m Kirsten, and I’m a mother, a wife, a girlfriend. And that, I say to you now with pride.

kirsten-xo

*bisexual erasure/invisibility: the tendency to ignore, remove, falsify, or reexplain evidence of bisexuality in history, academia, news media, and other primary sources. In its most extreme form, bisexual erasure can include denying that bisexuality exists. [source]

June 2017 GlossyBox Review

Good afternoon all! We’re halfway through the week now, and I hope you’re having a good one 😉

It’s that time of the month again where I receive a special lil package just for me filled with products to try out and shout about on the internet! Yes, it’s GlossyBox time, my only beauty subscription, and this month is rather great, guys ^__^

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Not pictured here is also a charcoal facemask, which I used before I took pictures because I was too excited about it!

This month I feel they have the balance perfect. One hair product, 3 skincare products, 2 beauty products… that’s a great balance for me. Obviously other people won’t feel the same as some will put more emphasis on haircare than skincare, for example, but it works really well for me. So let’s get into it!

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Please forgive me for this truly awful photo.

Beauty Pro Black Diamond Black Peel Off Mask (RRP £4.95 full size of 3 applications; approx. £1.65 for this size)

The good: Cruelty-free, no Mineral Oils/Lanolin/Petroleum/Parabens, popular fun product
The bad: didn’t notice much difference to skin afterwards

I was so excited about receiving this because these charcoal peel-off masks have become a bit of a phenomenon. This is the kind of thing I can get behind, especially because I have such bad skin and will try anything that promises to keep that in check!

Let’s also not beat around the bush: we’ve all seen those videos of people using these masks and peeling them off to reveal all the stuff that comes out of their pores. You either think that’s gross or heckin’ cool. I’m the later. Sorry! Yes, I am confirmed gross.

I’m actually gonna save a full assessment on this for a separate blog post, but I will state here that although not what I expected, I really liked it and would buy it again.

 

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Batiste Stylist Oomph my Locks XXL Volume Spray (RRP £4.29)

The good: attractive packaging, full size product
The bad: these things don’t usually work on my hair

It’s always super exciting to receive a full-size product in a GlossyBox, and this is particularly good for things like hair and skincare, where you may need to use the product a few times to get an accurate idea of how good they are.

At first I thought this was a dry shampoo, which are what Batiste are known for, but it’s actually a dedicated volume boosting spray. It applies and feels like a dry shampoo from my first use of it, so I’m not sure what the difference actually is apart from the £2 price hike. Dry shampoos don’t seem to do much for me other than make my hair frizzy, and from a first use of this, it appears that this product is going to be no different.

I do always like to use things until they’re out, unless I really really don’t like them, so I will continue using this to see if my mind changes, but I’m not particularly expecting it to, and might not even pick it up that much. I think I’ve still got a volume boosting spray sat in my hair product basket, which I received in a beauty box last year.

 

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Himalaya Herbals Purifying Neem Face Wash (RRP £3.29)

The good: Cruelty-free, no parabens, great cleanser
The bad: none so far

I always like receiving new cleansers and scrubs, and as I said above with the charcoal mask, I will jump at the prospect of anything that promises to help clear up my skin. It’s a nice bonus when you can find cruelty-free products with natural ingredients that promise this.

This face wash is a little strange. It’s almost like a gel, but it doesn’t foam up as you rub it. I’m always a little wary of products like this, as they often don’t leave me feeling clean, if that makes sense. However, this is different. Despite not like any cleanser I’ve used before, it managed to remove a full face of makeup, which I was not expecting. I usually remove my makeup before cleansing my face, but when I get a new cleanser I always think it’s a good way to put it to the test, and this lil guy passed with flying colours.

When used on its own, it felt refreshing. It has a bit of an unusual smell, somewhere between “herbal” and “disinfectant”, but I don’t mind it at all. I’m really, really liking this stuff.

 

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111Skin Space Defence Bright Eye Lift Gel (RRP £110!!!!!!!!!!!!!; for this size approx. £36.67)

The good: smells nice, cool name, nice packaging, promises the world
The bad: did you not peep that price?

I’ve received a 111Skin product before in a GlossyBox, and I remember being similarly outraged by the expense of that product too. Seriously, this is an expensive company. Damn.

Anyway, I’ll try to stay balanced.

This product claims to be a: “soothing eye gel that minimises puffiness and reduces dark circles for a brighter, awakened appearance”, and I’m assuming from the name, to lift the eyes as well? I haven’t used this, so I can’t actually comment on how well it will work, but I will definitely document the process when I do start using it.

The gel is clear and feels very lightweight, drying on the skin very quickly. There’s a nice smell to it, but it’s not overly strong and seems to dissipate soon after use, or so I can tell from a very small use on the back of my hand.

It took me a while to get the pump on this product to work, but it did eventually, which I’m glad of, because I’m gonna be scraping every tiny bit I can out of this bottle!

 

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Manna Kadar Glo Illuminator (RRP $29; approx £22.69)

The good: nice, subtle glow
The bad: thin formula, high price point

Don’t get me wrong: I am always excited to receive new makeup. I’m game for trying new products, always, and almost every makeup product I’ve received from a beauty box I have used. However, I did receive a liquid illuminator in a GlossyBox not so long ago (in my blog break), and so to receive another is a teeny bit disappointing. Regardless, I’ll still give it a go.

This one is a pretty rose gold colour, but I don’t think it will work on every shade of skin. I tried using this as a liquid highlight yesterday and the results were underwhelming. The formula of this is very thin and liquid, and I think it probably was just soaking into my blender, instead of being dispersed on my face. I think that this one might be better for mixing with foundation, and I’ll give that a go another time.

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The only other comment I have is that it’s quite a high price point for a company I’ve never heard of, and for a product that’s less than fantastic. For just £10 more you can get a high-end liquid highlighter like the Becca Shimmering Skin Perfector or the rave-reviewed Cover FX Custom Enhancer Drops (both of which come in a Rose Gold shade).

 

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Sleek Makeup Power Plump Lip Crayon in Colossal Coral (RRP £5.50)

The good: great pigmentation, long-lasting, easy to use, low price point, smells nice
The bad: potentially not very plumping

Okay, so one of the problems with the damn break I had from the blog is thinking on things I received in my GlossyBoxes that I haven’t shared with you guys… and one of those things was an eyeshadow and blusher palette by Sleek, that I absolutely adore. I was so shocked by the quality of the shadows in such an inexpensive palette. And now I’m being wowed by their lip products too.

I enjoy a lip crayon sometimes simply because they’re so easy to use. You can just pop them on with no hassle, and then into a handbag. They’re usually not as pigmented as lipsticks, but are more nourishing and longer-lasting than sheer lipsticks (or so I find). I definitely find that with this one.

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Colossal coral is a really nice but muted coral shade which I can imagine working on a lot of skintones. I wore it yesterday, and it lasted almost the whole day without budging. I would say that it’s comparable to lip crayons of a much higher price point that I’ve tried, and £5.50 is a bargain.

The only even slightly negative thing to say about this is that it’s a lip plumping crayon, and although I could feel the tingling that you usually do with lip plumpers, I didn’t notice much of a difference.

 

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The other lil thing that was included in this month’s box was a preview of Louise Pentland (aka Sprinkle of Glitter)’s debut novel. I haven’t read it yet, but I can’t wait to get my nose stuck in to it!

And one last thing to note:

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Look at that preview for July!! I’m soooooo excited!


Total worth: £74.09 – might be the highest worth I’ve had out of a GlossyBox!

Overall thoughts: I am incredibly impressed by this box, especially having received a pretty meh box last month. I think this had a good range of products, and despite having a couple in it I’m not suuuuper hyped about, there are some I am, and I’ll still get use out of all of them.

 

So what do you think? Did you get any different products in your GlossyBoxes this month? ❤ Let me know below!

Until next time 😉

kirsten-xo

So What is a Magnetic Polish?

Good morning, good morning, good morning, and if you’re in the UK, a very happy Spring bank holiday! The weather isn’t looking promising here right now, but whatever you end up doing, I hope you have a lovely, relaxed day ^__^

So, anyone who knows me, knows that I love a bargain. In any shop I go to, I head straight to the sale section. When I go grocery shopping, I always come out with products covered in yellow stickers. I’m a member of several bargain groups on facebook. I also happen to be on O2 as my phone network, and have the O2 Priority app on my phone, which provides lots of different offers and discounts for O2 customers.

So, last week, I opened up the app and encountered what I deemed to be the best offer I had seen on there: 8 nails inc. polishes for £8!

Now, if you haven’t heard or encountered nails inc. before, they are a high-end nail polish company based in the UK. They have some beautiful colours, and I have used them a lot in the past. Having used them, I also knew that their polishes retailed at £11 – £15 a pop, so to get so many at £8 seemed unreal.

The offer is actually a whopping £96 discount (yes, you read that correctly) on their Festival Nails bundle, which have 8 full size, metallic, magnetic polishes in it.

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The offer, at the time of writing this, is still available on the O2 app, so if you have it, I recommend getting on it! I will not be sharing the code for the offer here, as I have read about nails inc. cancelling orders for people who have somehow managed to find the code when not O2 customers.

I was intrigued by the concept of a magnetic polish, as I had never tried them before, and wasn’t even exactly sure what they did. But, hey, it’s a great offer and I’m keen to give anything a go!

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There’s a nice range of shades, and the only thing I would say is that they are all quite dark, which I think is due to the formula that needs to be used to make the magic work. I dunno, though… I’m guessing, really. However, they are much more vivid once applied!

There are magnets in the caps to the polishes, which you hold over the nail when the polish is wet to create the design. Something that is really cool is that the polishes have a few different designs, which seem to be determined by the magnet, so they different colours have different designs. I’m sure the magnets can be switched around though, so you could create different designs with different colours!

The shades you get are:

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houses of parliament, which is a deep mauve-purple with a wave design magnet.

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spitalfields, which is a metallic grass green, with a fishnet design magnet.

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soho, which is a true pewter shade with a fishnet design cap

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whitehall, which is a deep teal with a wave design cap

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london town, which is a light brown with a wave design cap (reminds me of the Thames on a bad day)

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kensington palace, which is a pink-toned red with a wave design cap

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shaftesbury avenue, which is a dark, witchy green with a star-shaped design in the lid (!)

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piccadilly, which is a dark gold glitter with a fishnet design cap.

Before we get into showing you all my nails, let me make one thing clear: I am terrible with nail polish, okay? My nails are not a massive priority to me. I feel the need to keep them short because a) I’m a mum, b) I do a lot of cooking and baking, and c) to deter me from anxiously biting them. I also have a bit of damage around my cuticles and sides of my fingers as well at the minute, so please try to ignore that too!

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These were the polishes with just one coat of polish on over a clear base coat. I was actually super impressed with how pigmented they were, but given the fact that these polishes work out at £13 per at full price, I guess you’d want them to be!

So, then I moved onto the next scary bit!

You are supposed to paint a thick layer of polish on the nail, and then hold the cap with the magnet directly over it (as close as you can get without touching) for a few seconds. I would say this was the hardest part for me, and I think I did touch down on one of my nails accidentally!

After you’ve done all nails, you finish up with a top coat, and you’re done.

I had…. varying levels of success.

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I would say the wave designs were the ones that worked best, but on some of them the design doesn’t seem to reach the sides of my nails. If I tried it again, I would probably try rolling my nail a little under the magnet, to see if it can reach the curve of my nail from all angles.

The star one on my left thumb also looks really cool, but I would say the fishnet designs weren’t very successful.

Overall, I ‘m really impressed with these nail polishes! I think the design work probably takes a lot of practice, but I’m happy to work on that! Even without the design, these are really, really pretty and pigmented metallic polishes, and so shiny and vibrant once there’s a topcoat on.

I’m definitely not complaining for the price I got them at!

So what do you guys think? I’d love to know if you’ve ever used magnetic polishes and what your experience with them is! Is it something you’d try?

Until next time my loves ❤

kirsten-xo

QUICK UPDATE

I will not be posting today or tomorrow.

Whenever things like the attack that happened in Manchester happen, I think we need some time to decompress. And so that’s what I’ll be doing.

Never forget that small acts of kindness are what make the world go around.

Love fiercely, and hold on to those you care about.

Take care.

kirsten-xo

Trying Out Natural Scrubs!

Goooood morning, and today I have a post for you that I have been excited to write for a while now!

You probably have seen a lot of promos for coffee scrubs going around. They seem to be all the rage at the minute. People are taking selfies of themselves with the coffee scrubs on, and these are being reposted by the Instagrams of the companies which sell them (something I am guilty of myself…).

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(psssst! Don’t forget to follow my NEW INSTA!! ^__^)

But this new craze has spawned another range of similar scrubs following the same pattern in terms of packaging and natural ingredients, but using different bases. Having used a few of these scrubs from two different companies now, I thought I’d chat a little about the differences, and give you guys a review of each.

I don’t want this to be a comparative post of Frank Body and Scrub Love. They are separate companies with notable differences who just happen to have similar concepts. For that reason, I will review each product separately and split it out into different elements of the product.

I’ll also note that obviously I have mentioned one of these in my most recent GlossyBox review, but I’m going to expand on it a bit further here to attempt to give a fair review.


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Frank Body Original Body Scrub (£12.95 for 200g – this is the sample size)

Main base ingredient: Coffee
Texture: Loose, but binds and spreads easily on wet skin, and washes off easily.
Exfoliation: Labelled as “tough”, but works on my sensitive skin, and is actually gentler than most exfoliants I’ve tried. I can use it on my face which has acne and mild psoriasis.

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Ingredients: Natural (ground & roasted robusta coffee, sweet almond oil, water, sea salt, sucrose, orange oil, vitamin E, soybean oil, benzyl alcohol, limonene).
Vegan: Yes.
Cruelty-Free: Yes.
Packaging: Recycled paper outer, and plastic interior and label with resealable top on the pouch. It looks like the packaging used for lots of brands of ground coffee, which is maybe the point?

Overall impressions:
This was my first experience with a coffee scrub, and I adore it. If you don’t like the smell of coffee, then I think it’s pretty obvious that you’re not going to get along with this. It smells of coffee (obviously), oranges, and has a sweet undertone.
When using it, the water goes a little brown from the coffee, but I haven’t experienced any problems with staining on my skin, tiles or tub. It gets pretty messy, but this can be minimised by removing your shower head to rinse, and giving your tub/shower a rinse out afterwards, which I do whenever I have a shower anyway, so it hasn’t altered my routine.
After use, my skin feels super soft, likely as a result of the almond oil and vitamin E. It doesn’t leave your skin feeling greasy, though. My skin then smells like coffee and oranges for ages afterward, which I personally love, and I can’t stop sniffing myself afterwards.
In terms of how much use I will get out of the product, it is amazing. Because it is mostly comprised of the loose coffee and not filled with gels to bind it like most other scrubs, you don’t need as much. I have had this sample size since January and have been using it once to twice a week, and I don’t even estimate that I’ve used half of it yet!


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Scrub Love Detoxifying Activated Charcoal Body Scrub in Cucumber and Bamboo (£13.95 for 200g – this is 100g)

Main base ingredient: Bamboo Charcoal
Texture: Almost like kinetic sand… it’s fairly loose but clumps together a bit. Will fall off unless skin thoroughly wet, but when wet spreads thickly and evenly.
Exfoliation: Really tough. It wasn’t too bad on my arm, however I wouldn’t recommend using near the face or other areas of sensitive skin. Felt and looked a bit like gravel.

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Ingredients: Natural, but contains natural based chemicals (powdered bamboo charcoal, bamboo powder, cucumber oil, polenta, white clay, linseed oil, decyl glucoside, bamboo extract, parfum, vitamin E, lactic acid).
Vegan:
Yes.
Cruelty-Free: Yes.
Packing: Plastic, again in a resealable pouch form.

Overall impressions:
Again, this was my first experience with a charcoal scrub. I have used charcoal soaps in the past, and although they did not clear it, they helped my acne as it is meant to be naturally detoxifying. Because of this, I was super excited to try this scrub.
As you may have read from my first impression of this though, I immediately thought there was a problem with this scrub because of the smell. To me, it smells rancid, like gone-off food. My husband and daughter agreed, and after a little research, I also discovered there were others who had used it who agree. Whether or not it is just a very dividing smell, where it smells good to some and bad to others, I can’t tell you. I knew I would not be able to use this product because the smell was so offputting, however I have put it to the test in the interests of giving a fair review.
At first, I tried it out on my face, but it was a) way too rough, and b) unbearable with the smell so close to my nose. So then, I just used it on my arm as above.
As you can see, the charcoal (and maybe the clay) causes your skin to go grey as you spread it. The exfoliant itself feels way too rough on my skin, and I was just looking forward to getting it off, to be honest.
After thorough rinsing, even though I had only used it for a few seconds (and not left it on “for as long as you can” as per the website’s instructions), my skin was tinged grey. I tried to get a photo of this, but it wasn’t showing up in my bathroom’s lighting. I have read other reviews online where people have claimed it stained their skin and their bathtubs, though.
In terms of use, I felt like I needed to pull out about double the amount of product as the coffee scrub, so it would potentially not last as long. However, because of the reasons outlined, I won’t be getting any further use out of this scrub.

Note: I was concerned about how horrible this product smelled, so I actually emailed the company to see if something could potentially have gone wrong. This was the response:
“The scrubs are mixed in batches of 20,000 at a time, so in order for it to be a bad ‘batch’ there would literally be 10’s of thousands reporting a problem. We also batch test each mix to be safe too”.
Although shrugging off my concerns, they did offer me a code to order a brand new scrub absolutely free, which I happily accepted. I feel it was pretty nice of them to afford me this offer, especially as it gave me the chance to try something different to be able not to write off the company completely based on just one product. Props to them for that.


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Scrub Love Hydrating Coconut Oil Body Scrub in Coconut Mango (£12.95 for 200g)

Main base ingredient: Ground coconut shell
Texture: Clumpy, like wet sand or an unpressed cheesecake base! It clumps together, but doesn’t stick very easily to the skin when wet or dry until thoroughly rubbed in. It had the most fallout.
Exfoliation: Standard; somewhere in between the coffee and charcoal scrubs. It was quite rough, as most scrubs are on me because I have sensitive skin, but was perfectly fine for use, and the most like a standard scrub.

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Ingredients: Natural, but contains natural based chemicals (coconut powder, mango powder, coconut shell powder, macadamia oil, coconut oil, coconut flour, coconut sugar, parfum, glycerin, vitamin E, lactic acid).
Vegan: Yes.
Cruelty-Free: Yes.
Packing: Plastic, again in a resealable pouch form.

Overall impressions:
This was the first coconut-based scrub I had used, but it felt the most… familiar. This was probably because numerous other scrubs on the market I have tried use ground fruit seeds and shells as their bases. The difference with this one would be the lack of other harsh chemical ingredients, the gels and lotions that usually bind these exfoliants. In a way, this is great, because it’s often unnecessary, and means you get less of the core of the product. However, as stated, the fallout from this product was greater than others, so maybe those other ingredients are what usually help to keep it on your skin as you use it.
The smell of this scrub is very, very strong, but thankfully (unlike the charcoal one) it is lovely. I get the feeling it might be a bit too sickly sweet for many (my husband falls in this camp), but I think it’s beautiful. The reason I chose this as my replacement product is because coconut and mango are two of my favourite scents, and despite this being comprised of so many forms of coconut, the mango is the smell that overpowers it all. If you don’t like mango, you won’t like it! But I love mango.
It has a lot of fallout as you begin to use it, but spreads more evenly and works well the more you work it in, though gentler strokes are necessary as it can be a little rough. Unlike the others, there is absolutely no staining to worry about with this one.
There is a lot of oil in this, though. When I first rinse it off, my skin feels a bit greasy, but this absorbs after a little while to leave my skin feeling super soft and smelling amazing.
Despite having the largest bag out of the scrubs I’m talking about, I reckon this one will last the least amount of time, unfortunately.
Overall, I’m really really happy with this product, and I’m glad I chose this as my replacement.


IN CONCLUSION

I never used to like exfoliating, seeing it more as a necessary activity than an enjoyable one. In the past I have found it difficult to find scrubs that cater to my skin being sensitive, don’t have harsh chemicals, and are natural and cruelty-free, so this next generation of scrubs are a big win in my book.

If you like coffee, I definitely recommend giving a coffee scrub a go, and I definitely will not stop raving about Frank Body. They have four coffee-based scrubs in different combos (original, coconut, cacao and peppermint), and have just released a “shimmer” scrub, which is not coffee, but comprised of sugar, salt and “glow dust” (which I’m desperate to try!).
Scrub Love also do coffee scrubs in different combos too (original, mint and coconut), but I can’t comment of these ones as I haven’t tried them! The original one seems to have almost the exact same ingredients as Frank Bod’s.

If you don’t like coffee, I highly recommend the delicious-smelling coconut scrubs from Scrub Love (which come in original, coconut mango and coconut cranberry), but I will be steering clear of the charcoal ones. Scrub Love also have a cacoa range which sounds amazing (especially the chocolate orange one!).

And that’s it my lovelies!

I apologise that this post is running late today; I had an issue which meant I had to rewrite the entirety of this post!

What are your experiences with body scrubs? Love them? Hate them? Have you tried Frank Bod or Scrub Love? What did you think?

Until next time ❤

kirsten-xo

 

Spring Navabi Sale Picks

Note 1: As of the date of writing this, all items are in stock, though in limited sizes.

Note 2: As I concentrate on plus-size fashion, I have only listed styles currently available in size 18 and above.

Goooooood morning peeps!

Today I have another fashion-based post for you, this time showcasing some of my faves from the amazing sale that Navabi currently has on!
Navabi sells high-quality plus size fashion, and I am always drooling over their website. Their sale has absolutely loads of great stuff in it, to the point where it was hard to narrow this down.

Spring always makes me think of pastel colours and floral prints, but there were some pieces I included here that I felt were just too good not to share.
Enjoy!

 

 

  1. Eterna Polka Dot Cotton Shirt
  2. Manon Baptiste Denim Midi Skirt
  3. Nör Polka Dot Shirt
  4. Manon Baptiste Open Front Boyfriend Blazer
  5. Choise Print Zip Neckline Dress
  6. Exelle Floral Print Tunic
  7. Jennifer Bryde Patterned Cotton Trousers
  8. Persona Polka Dot Dévoré Shirt
  9. Miss Y by Yoek Cotton Shirt Dress
  10. Choise Striped Button Through Dress
  11. Eterna Printed Cotton Shirt
  12. Annalisa Woven Pleated Top
  13. Zizzi Patchwork Effect Skinny Jeans
  14. Samoon Drawstring Waist Dress

 

What do you think? Have you found any amazing sale picks this season?

Until next time, lovelies ❤

kirsten-xo

I Have a New Instagram!

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Hey guys!

Just stopping by to let you know that I have a new Instagram, on which I’m going to be sharing stuff exclusively to do with blogging ❤

NEW INSTAGRAM HERE

I’d be super grateful if you checked it out and gave me a follow 😀
I’m still in the process of setting up and need lots of cool beauty bloggers and plus size bloggers to follow, so will check out all new followers too!

Thanks lovelies ❤

kirsten-xo